My MEI Class Reunion

This is the early MEI, which was located at the corner of Clearbrook & Peardonville Roads.

I came away from my high school class reunion in August with a profound sense of respect for my former classmates. The respect is for what they have accomplished, what they endured, and who they have become.

It’s been 62 years since we walked across the stage at the Mennonite Educational Institute in Abbotsford to receive our diploma from the principal, Mr. Bill Wiebe. We were young, frisky and idealistic then. Over the intervening years the world has undergone radical change, and so have we. Now our hair is white or grey. In some cases there isn’t a lot of hair remaining. Several individuals walked with a cane or walker. Nineteen former classmates have already made the transition to what is often referred to as “a better place.”

Many of us have some common threads in our history. In most cases our ancestors fled from Ukraine. My early family, and also Linda’s, came to Canada in about 1874. There was a further substantial migration in the 1920’s. Then, when the German Wehrmacht was driven out by the Red Army in World War II, many Mennonites followed the retreating army to Germany. They feared the Bolsheviks even more than the Nazis. From Germany many emigrated to Canada or elsewhere. They spoke mostly German in their homes and churches, in some homes Low German was common. Inspite of this, they didn’t consider themselves German, but rather as Mennonites. Some of us, myself included, didn’t learn English until grade 1. For at least 30 years Linda and I have attended these gatherings every 5 years, although Covid delayed this one.

When we walked into the Azalea room at the Garden Park Tower in Abbotsford, I recognized virtually no one. As we passed a woman sitting alone at a table I stopped to introduce Linda and myself. She said, “I’m Anna.” She had been the class valedictorian. In 62 years I had not seen her at any of the previous reunions. Surprised I said, “Anna! I remember thinking you were one of the prettiest girls in our class.”

I looked around the crowded room, very aware of the excited buzz of conversation as former classmates became joyfully reacquainted. One of the individuals I especially wanted to see was Abe, a friend who had not attended MEI but had married Ann,  a girl from our grade. I asked one of the organizers if Abe was there and she said he wouldn’t be coming. I felt devastated when she added, “he has Parkinsons.”

Many years ago Abe, then well placed in the Provincial Probation Service, had recommended me for a position with the One Way Adventure Foundation, an organization working with young offenders in Surrey and Hedley. Except for his phone call asking me to apply, Linda and I likely would not be living in Hedley now. Fortunately Abe and Ann did show up briefly and I was able to have a short visit with them.

In snatches of conversation with these former classmates I learned that over the years many have experienced significant victories and also disheartening setbacks. My friend Alvin had lost his wife to illness. He has since married Flo. After a few minutes with them I turned to Alvin and said, “you found a good one.”

I was delighted to see Art, a valued friend in the upper grades. He and his wife Marlyce had both trained to become cardiologists and had made numerous trips to impoverished countries like the DCR, Tunisia, Romania, and Serbia. They lectured, consulted, and at times assisted with medical procedures. For about 20 years they have been deeply involved with the Mennonite Centre in Ukraine. In the present conflict the Centre is providing meals, refuge, transportation, hope and other needs.

MEI Grads of 1960
photo by permission of Paul Funk

Many of the classmates have volunteered in various places around the globe, usually in communities where food, clean water, and employment opportunities were scarce. A number served under the auspices of the Mennonite Central Committee (MCC) in Canada and abroad. During their working years some served in their church. In retirement they spread their wings, often to serve where it was uncomfortable and at times hazardous. I gathered from the joy in their voices that serving others has given them a great surge of satisfaction and fulfillment. Linda and I consider ourselves blessed to be part of this group of very special people.

 

 

 

Marvin’s 90th Birthday Party

Marvin knew there was to be a celebration of his 90th birthday at the Hedley Hall. He dressed for the occasion and his appearance was pretty spiffy. Even though he had been told this little party was for him, when he entered the hall his face and physical demeanor registered astonishment.

Marvin paused when he entered the hall.

Maybe he had expected only a handful of his neighbours to come, not the approximately 30 smiling guests shouting “Happy Birthday Marvin!” Also, he likely had not expected elaborate decorations including a large banner wishing him a Happy 90th birthday. For a moment he stood transfixed.

Marvin lives alone on the far side of the community, alongside 20 Mile Creek. I stop and chat with him when I meet him on the street, but I don’t know his full name. It’s quite possible no one in town knows his last name.

We enjoyed a delicious lunch served by the Hedley Hall ladies. Some of us were still eating when there was a loud knock on the exterior door.

Marvin was still eating his cake when there was a loud knock on the door.

An elderly woman entered, wearing a long dress with a shawl around her shoulders, a kerchief tied over her grey hair, and walking with a cane. By her accent we understood she and Marvin have a common Ukrainian heritage.“My name is Baba,” she announced. “The farmers from back home on the Saskatchewan prairies sent me to share best wishes and words of wisdom.”

Marvin broke in and said, “I’m almost afraid to hear their message.”

Be mindful of corona virus,” Baba advised. “Don’t drink that beer in the sun. That’s the truth of where corona virus comes from. Also, don’t fall for any of those crazy health food fads. At our age, we need all the preservatives we can get!”

After dispensing more sage advice, Baba said, “your friends sent me to dance for you. I’ve been taking lessons but I warn you, I’m just a beginner. I’m going to do a pole dance!” and she held up 2 canes. Then without moving her feet, she vigorously moved her hips from side to side.

 

Marvin enjoying the humor.

Baba paused, glanced at her audience and winked at us. She ended her speech with, “Marvin was a good dancer. He sure knew how to shake, rattle and roll! He still does … every morning when he gets out of bed.”

Marvin smiled many times during Baba’s humorous presentation, then got up and did a mini jig on the spot. “This is the best town I’ve ever lived in,” he said. He was given a number of gifts, including a gift card to use at the Hedley Country Market. There was also a walking stick with his name carved on it.

Marvin expressed his appreciation.

The members of the Hedley Hall gave Marvin a party he may never forget. And they gave us all an opportunity to get to know him better and have some great fun.